Co-Parenting and COVID-19
In this difficult and rapidly changing time when many are impacted by the COVID-19 pandemic, we recognize that this presents particularly unique challenges to parents who co-parent their children. The normal stresses of coordinating tasks and responsibilities are even more difficult with schools closed and parents attempting to juggle childcare with changing job requirements and restricted social interaction.
Children can sense the anxieties of their parents and other adults in their lives.
Out of Province Custody
Many families in PEI are involved in out of province custody agreements. The COVID-19 pandemic has been a difficult time for children and their parents. The CPHO has developed a process to support families during these challenging times.
Children and their parents can leave and enter PEI for the purpose of custody exchanges.
To be considered exempt from the requirement to self-isolate, parents must only go to the designated exchange location and make no other stops. They cannot go shopping, visit friends or visit any other public spaces.
Parents from out of province may enter PEI to pick up children. They are exempt from self-isolation only to pick up or drop off their child.
Once a child has completed their visit outside of PEI and returns home, or once a child from out of province has arrived in PEI for a custody visit, the following guidelines must be adhered to during the first 14 days:
- Please self-isolate and be tested at day 0-1. Only the child who traveled and an adult should remain in self-isolation, away from other members of the household, until the negative test result is received.
Once the negative test is received please follow the guidance below:
- Further testing must be completed at days 4-6 and 9-11.
- May attend school/daycare but cannot attend other public places such as sports (practice, games, and team gatherings) and parties.
- Keep circle of contacts small. Only have contact with household members.
- The first test must be completed and a negative result received prior to returning to school and/or daycare.
- Must wear a non-medical mask if able at all times when at school/day care
- Adhere to all other Public Health Measures in place: staying home when unwell, physical distancing, respiratory etiquette and hand hygiene.
- If symptoms develop, self-isolate immediately and go for testing.
Custody Questions and Answers
Why are Custody agreements continuing outside of Prince Edward Island?
Custody arrangements are important for the health and wellbeing of children and their parents, prolonged separation is not healthy. As well, many custody agreements are court ordered and legally binding and must be upheld even during a pandemic.
Why are children not required to self-isolate for 14 days upon return from travel outside of Prince Edward Island?
Children who must travel to be with parents outside of Prince Edward Island if required to self-isolate after each custody visit, would experience a detrimental impact.
Why are children allowed to be “tested” out of self-isolation?
Children are not tested out of self-isolation. Rather we do testing and give guidance on extra precautions such as wearing a non-medical mask and only attending school and day care. These measures provide an extra layer of protection to allow children to continue school and day care after a custody visit. Our goal is to support families safely in these unique and rare instances, while also minimizing risk to the wider community.
The PEI Family Court Counsellors Office and the Family Law Centre recommend this is the time when it is most important that parents take the following steps to provide the support and assurances that children need:
- ensure that children have as little disruption in their parenting time as possible;
- maintain court-ordered parenting time schedules to the greatest extent possible; and
- remain vigilant in keeping conflict away from your children.
Remember: A pandemic is not a reason to keep your children away from their other parent. Regular parenting time schedules should be maintained, unless someone is self-isolating or under quarantine.
How do we practice physical distancing during an exchange?
When possible, parenting exchanges might happen at a public parking lot, assuring that adults remain the recommended physical distance from each other. You should ensure that children’s hands are washed frequently. Clothing, toys, and other personal belongings should be washed after each exchange.
How do we parent from two or more homes if self-isolation is required or someone develops symptoms?
If you are parenting a child from two or more homes, the following is suggested in circumstances of self-isolation:
- A child cannot travel back and forth between households for the period of the self-isolation.
- If you or someone in your household is required to self-isolate, notify your co-parent of this right away, so that the two of you can make a plan that’s safe for the children, even if that plan means temporarily altering the parenting schedule in your court order or parental agreement;
- If the children can’t spend physical time with one parent due to self-isolation, the onus is on the resident parent (the parent the children are currently staying with) to facilitate frequent contact between the child and their other parent in other ways, such as through phone calls and videoconferencing (e.g. Skype or FaceTime)
- If the parenting schedule has to be temporarily changed due to self-isolation, when the self-isolation period is over, try to provide make-up time to the parent who missed out on time.
What happens when the self-isolation period is over?
When a self-isolation period is over, try to provide make-up time to the parent who missed out on time.
I returned from a trip outside of the Atlantic Bubble (without my children) today so I am required to self-isolate for 14 days. However, our order says that the children are supposed to be in my care starting tomorrow. What do we do?
If you are required to self-isolate and you do not currently have the children in your care, but your parenting schedule indicates the children are supposed to return to your care before your self-isolation is over, talk to your co-parent about whether the children can remain in their care until you are finished self-isolating. If it is not possible for the children to remain in your co-parent’s care until you are done self-isolating, discuss whether the children can stay with another trusted adult until you are finished self-isolating.
The children and I just returned from an extended trip outside of PEI, so we are all required to self-isolate for 14 days. However, our parenting agreement says that the children are supposed to go to their other parent’s house tomorrow. What do we do?
Notify your co-parent immediately that you and the children are required to self-isolate. If the children go to your co-parent’s house before the children’s 14-day self-isolation period is over, that means that your co-parent and everyone in their household could be at risk of exposure to COVID-19 and they will also have to self-isolate for 14 days. If there are other children in your co-parent’s household, or if people with compromised immune systems live there, your children should not stay there if at all possible until your children are done self-isolating. If possible, the children should remain in your care until the children’s self-isolation period is complete.
At the same time, parents must be willing to adapt these rules if they or other household members require self-isolation or present as symptomatic.
Guidelines for parents of children living in two or more homes
Recommendations of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts
- BE HEALTHY – Model good behaviour for your children with intensive hand washing, wiping down surfaces and other objects that are frequently touched. Maintain social distancing, and self-isolation, if ordered by the PEI Chief Public Health Officer. Follow the guidance of the Chief Public Health Office found online.
- BE MINDFUL – Maintain a calm attitude and convey to your children your belief that everything will return to normal in time. Avoid making careless comments in front of children and exposing them to endless media coverage intended for adults. At the same time, encourage your children to ask questions and answer them truthfully at a level that is age-appropriate. The Hospital for Sick Children created an online hub for resources on coping with COVID-19, while supporting children's mental health and wellbeing.
- BE COMPLIANT with Court Orders and Parenting Agreements to the greatest extent possible. Court orders exist to prevent endless haggling over the details of timesharing; if schools are closed, for example, parenting schedules should remain in force as though school were still in session, to the greatest extent possible. If your visits or exchanges were supposed to occur through the Supervised Access and Exchange Program (which is not operating during this pandemic period), you are encouraged to contact your lawyer. However, note that temporary changes to parenting schedules may need to be made if a family member is required to self-isolate.
- BE CREATIVE – Some parents will have to work extra hours to help deal with the crisis, and other parents may be out of work or working reduced hours for a time. In such situations, plans will inevitably have to change. Encourage closeness with the parent who is not going to see your child by way of shared books, movies, games, FaceTime or Skype.
- BE TRANSPARENT – Try to agree on what steps each of you as parents will take to protect the children from exposure. Parents should inform each other right away if a child is showing any possible symptoms of COVID-19.
- BE GENEROUS – Try to provide make-up time to the parent who missed out on parenting time, if at all possible. Generally, judges expect that parents will make reasonable accommodations, in situations where it is safe to do so, and judges will take seriously concerns raised in later court filings about parents who are inflexible in highly unusual circumstances.
Adversity can become an opportunity for parents to come together and focus on what is best for their children. For many children, the strange days of the pandemic will leave vivid memories. It is important for every child to know and remember that both parents did everything they could to explain what was happening and to keep their children safe.
Child Protection Services
It is important to know that Child Protection Services may consider a child to be in need of protection if the child is considered at substantial risk of suffering harm caused by failure of a parent to protect a child, such as if a parent knowingly exposes the child to a situation where the child is at risk of contracting COVID-19.
Every Islander has a duty to report known or suspected case(s) of child abuse. To report, call 1-877-341-3101 during business hours (8:30 am - 5:00 pm) and 1-800-341-6868 after-hours and on weekends.